I was in a flower shop yesterday and was quite amused, while watching the male patrons trying to choose flowers for Valentine's Day. Some looked like they had never seen flowers before. Others looked sad, some frustrated. It was clear that none of these males were enjoying this. How come? I mean, I know there are many people who don't like Valentine's Day. Obviously if one is single, it doesn't really mean much and for some, can be a sad day. Others say, that love should not only be shown on a day that is "dictated" but rather one should show love every day. True. But does that really always happen? I mean, the day is there, whether we like it or not. And if you do have someone "special" in your life, especially, if that someone is female, there will be some expectation to recognize the day, somehow. Now guys, even if your gal says not to get her anything, that DOES NOT mean you should not get her anything. But depending on the girl, you don't need to go overboard. Are we women so difficult? I was almost feeling the pain of one of the guys in the flower shop today. He didn't have a clue of what to get. "Something nice", he told the florist. Either this guy just started dating this girl, or he hasn't really bothered to get to know her. Buying flowers should NOT be painful!!! He should have a smile on his face, knowing he's going to make someone happy! I would be happy to get flowers, no matter what kind of flowers. It is the thought that counts. I feel really sorry for those guys who have girlfriends or wives who are so nit-picky, that they actually have to dictate what type of flowers they want their men to buy. For heavens' sake - those chicks need to get their priorities straight. Guys, society puts a lot of pressure on you, come Valentine's Day. My advice is, have fun with it. Try to remember what she likes. Be thoughtful. Do what you feel. Speak from the heart. It's should really be that simple. Happy Valentine's Day everyone!
2 comments:
The problem with the holiday is most men (and women) feel forced into having to do something or else come off as someone who 'does not care'.
Instead, if the relationship is good and honest then there really should not be any pressure, especially if the couple talks it out before hand to help plan the day. With that said, I still think this made up holiday is dumb in that in a given relationship you would think that throughout the time you would be able to show your feeling through a number of different way, both subtle and substantial, and always doing it in a comfortable, fun and non-forced way.
Nothing worse then feeling you have to do something instead of wanting to do it - the end result just won't be as good.
Once again proves why I'm happy being single.
but don't blame it on the holiday....it should be blamed on the individuals, Savage. No commercial about jewelry is going to grab you through the TV and force you to buy a bracelet by attempting strangulation. A couple should definitely communicate and it should be comfortable. If a relationship is "right", then neither side should really feel "forced". But then again, welcome to the reality of relationships...It is too much of a fairytale to think that a relationship can go on without a care in the world, always fun and problem-free. Everyone would LOVE this -but that kind of thing does not exist. There will be times on occasion, when one person will feel forced in doing something they may not want to do...but then again, with loving someone, comes the act of compromising. Once the compromising is too heavy on one side though, then that is a certain wake up call.
But then to add, Valentine's day is no different from Mother's Day, when you think about it. Right? So why aren't there "I hate Mother's Day" groups? I think people think it's just cool to hate
V-day...after all love is so over-rated and for wussies, right? Damn straight.
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